tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post8055196286330604162..comments2023-10-25T03:45:03.077-04:00Comments on Confessions of a Watery Tart: Pondering TartHart Johnsonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17599570189253229318noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-66160727594648089862011-12-11T19:36:44.016-05:002011-12-11T19:36:44.016-05:00Funerals can be either terribly sad, or uplifting ...Funerals can be either terribly sad, or uplifting and inspirational. Sometimes a combination of both, but they don't have to be tragic occasions.Trishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16927558937796802496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-42435595227657785802011-12-11T15:54:43.730-05:002011-12-11T15:54:43.730-05:00I loved this, thanks for sharing. What kind of cre...I loved this, thanks for sharing. What kind of creeps me out is that this woman sounds eerily like my mom, and I don't much want to think about my mom's funeral. <br /><br />Only in recent years have I come to understand the legitimate selfish motive of being of service and paying it forward as you say. Paradoxically, selfish pursuits as we commonly understand them do not enrich the self in the end. They do not make us happy. The only sustainable selfish pursuit is being selfless. I can understand why it took me 28 years to get this, because it sounds like it would be bullcrap.<br />+followedElliot MacLeod-Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03101422996950773526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-28018698749695147862011-12-10T16:15:04.280-05:002011-12-10T16:15:04.280-05:00I am grieved that you lost such a friend but comfo...I am grieved that you lost such a friend but comforted that her funeral was "healing" as such things can be. <br /><br />Just dropped by to say thanks for having always been my friend, RolandRoland D. Yeomanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00338410857990551352noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-24259885276556422832011-12-09T15:09:35.121-05:002011-12-09T15:09:35.121-05:00We're a military family. When we're away, ...We're a military family. When we're away, I miss family. When we're near, sometimes it's too much after a while. But the love is always there, near or far.<br /><br />I'm so sorry you lost your friend. I think she was a wonderful woman.<br /><br />If someone in my family said to dress alike, most of us would have worn something different.Carol Kilgorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168273312704732896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-17833257499488338862011-12-08T23:33:43.064-05:002011-12-08T23:33:43.064-05:00I'm sorry you lost such a special lady in your...I'm sorry you lost such a special lady in your life. I adore close family but not so close that we would live in the same house. I always thought when I got married my family would just get bigger. My husband's family didn't seem to have those same thoughts.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12269660745591215804noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-70545161548200042892011-12-08T12:45:26.185-05:002011-12-08T12:45:26.185-05:00Thank you so much everyone!
I really relate to li...Thank you so much everyone!<br /><br />I really relate to liking the anonymity. I loved living in Portland for that. But see, the key in Portland was I was driving distance from the family. I was happy to have the daily visit option off the table, but I'd really like the holiday visit back ON.<br /><br />Michael-we are headed for cremation, too. That is possibly a generation thing--for me it's about mother earth, and I'd rather be spread over the ocean than locked in a box.Hart Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17599570189253229318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-6240012888749133332011-12-08T12:31:46.699-05:002011-12-08T12:31:46.699-05:00It's funny, the different perspective on famil...It's funny, the different perspective on families. My husband grew up with a massive, middle Eastern family and he loves the anonymity of life in London without them watching his every move. On the other hand, I miss have family nearby.Talli Rolandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04780882465745107715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-10164984991336201592011-12-08T12:07:39.187-05:002011-12-08T12:07:39.187-05:00oh, I didn't know. So sorry for your loss. ((h...oh, I didn't know. So sorry for your loss. ((hug)) But it sounds like this was a very special person, and it's cool that her funeral was so inspiring. It is hard to get connected in a new place--as I'm discovering right now. But I think the longer we're anywhere, the more that changes. Or maybe it's just what's in the person. Who knows. <br /><br />But the "scattered" portion of this really hit home for me, esp. now. It seems like when my g'rents died, our family lost touch. And for me that was after 30 years of large, vibrant family gatherings. Now we're 800+ miles away. And it is sad. So I'm all empathy over here. What to do? ((hugs))LTMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05239077455322030275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-57539826005864351252011-12-08T11:36:34.655-05:002011-12-08T11:36:34.655-05:00In my own funeral there will probably be one perso...In my own funeral there will probably be one person if that. I want to be cremated so there is nothing left to rot. I just don't believe in corpses and stuff like that. Return me to the earth as a pile of ash.Michael Offutt, Phantom Readerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10557969104886174930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-5030476308422543632011-12-08T09:55:42.686-05:002011-12-08T09:55:42.686-05:00There's a lot to chew on in this post. I agree...There's a lot to chew on in this post. I agree that it's easy to lose sight of the idea of service when you're not connected to the community in which you live. I know for me, coming from a background much like yours, I like the anonymity of living in a place where I didn't grow up and don't have any family or shared history with the other residents.<br /><br />That's not to say I don't miss home. I do. Just not enough to move back there.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-32309970201648146412011-12-08T09:52:55.833-05:002011-12-08T09:52:55.833-05:00Awww lovely Tart!! May you always keep your family...Awww lovely Tart!! May you always keep your family close and together and with you always!<br /><br />Take care<br />xOld Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13185547869183611159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-87873916244361395332011-12-08T09:52:18.540-05:002011-12-08T09:52:18.540-05:00My family is like your family. All major holidays ...My family is like your family. All major holidays are spent with my extended family. Aunts, uncles and cousins. On my dad's side, we occasionally spend time with his extended family (his aunts uncles and cousins) but they're not local so it's not as often.<br /><br />Singing at funerals is what always makes me crySarah Ahiershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02795455714801965956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-62775711429356005632011-12-08T09:47:21.679-05:002011-12-08T09:47:21.679-05:00Hart, this is one of the most beautiful posts I...Hart, this is one of the most beautiful posts I've ever read. You bring this woman and her heart to life, and you sum up so much of what I believe and want in my own.<br /><br />Thank you for sharing this!S.P. Sipalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17943968424012034217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-679560479025882302011-12-08T09:37:02.086-05:002011-12-08T09:37:02.086-05:00wow! she sounds like an awesome person! i'm ...wow! she sounds like an awesome person! i'm glad you got to know her, and i'm sure she's happy where she is now!<br /><br />and yes!<br />service is key, and we need to be always, always remembering that!vic caswell https://www.blogger.com/profile/01218698236837610704noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-88962395156117747242011-12-08T08:59:20.388-05:002011-12-08T08:59:20.388-05:00I don't have a big family, but we moved around...I don't have a big family, but we moved around a lot when I was young, which made close relationships difficult.<br />And that is a wonderful goal - help others so they can help others.Alex J. Cavanaughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09770065693345181702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-65978915911831649182011-12-08T08:40:18.918-05:002011-12-08T08:40:18.918-05:00We have a small family though you wouldn't kno...We have a small family though you wouldn't know it. Our homes are always full of people. I feel blessed they all feel "at home" with all of us.Mary@GigglesandGunshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07350818228268801008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-7023319688554494612011-12-08T08:39:53.587-05:002011-12-08T08:39:53.587-05:00I like the idea of a big, close family, but it mak...I like the idea of a big, close family, but it makes me very uncomfortable when I'm actually in the middle of that situation. Your friend sounds wonderful and very loved/lovable. I'm sorry you lost her.Tonjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08652479946102909276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-68242053543321967282011-12-08T08:26:13.702-05:002011-12-08T08:26:13.702-05:00I think it's perfect to have family far away, ...I think it's perfect to have family far away, don't want to have them running around in the backyard every day. This year we have to go down south for a big family Christmas. I would prefer a family-of-4 Christmas (or even better, no Christmas at all)<br /><br /><a href="http://cold-as-heaven.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Cold As Heaven</a>CA Heavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07558100567878233142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7127677169344207651.post-79700442878122624052011-12-08T08:22:22.156-05:002011-12-08T08:22:22.156-05:00A life richly lived is a joy to read about. Thank ...A life richly lived is a joy to read about. Thank you for the inspiration today-Shellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04930262815304757150noreply@blogger.com